During the last 13 years of helping clients through divorces, I have often heard the people involved say “there has to be a better way.”  They all realize there should be a way to handle divorces that costs less money, causes less stress and does less damage to the relationships between the spouses.

The good news is there is a better way (in fact there are a couple of better ways).  Just because couples are getting divorced does not mean they have to spend all their money on lawyers, sit up at night wondering what will happen next and attack their spouse to gain an advantage.

A typical couple that is getting divorced must address 6 issues:

  • Grounds for divorce
  • Custody, visitation and child support for their children
  • Division of their property and debts
  • Alimony or spousal support
  • Restraints on future conduct
  • Payment of the costs of the divorce

For each of these issues, the divorcing couples can either resolve it by agreement themselves or they can have someone else impose their decision on them.  There are several methods available to divorcing couples to resolve these issues.  These methods range from very peaceful to all out war.  The methods also produce results that range from independent, self-determined solutions to decisions imposed on the couple by an independent, third-party such as a Family Court Judge.

The five basic methods for resolving these issues are:

  • “Kitchen-Table Agreement”
  • Mediation
  • Collaborative Law
  • Arbitration
  • Litigation

As part of my practice, I am committed to giving divorcing couples access to the peaceful methods that allow them to determine how the issues in their divorce will be resolved.

The rest of this website is designed to provide you with information about each of the methods available to you for deciding the issues in your divorce.  The content here is focused on negotiated agreements, mediation, collaborative law and arbitration.  If you need a lawyer to represent you in contested divorce, visit my litigation website www.carolinafamilymatters.com.